The holidays are over in my country (they end later than in others). I’ve bought myself a new pair of VR glasses, my fourth over the years. The feeling of being immersed in a VR experience can’t be properly described in words. You forget it over time if you haven’t been at it. The brain gets deceived into believing that you’re truly walking in wide open spaces, and that a zombie is heading toward you. You reach with one hand to hold it in place while with your other you push a knife through its brain, and in the meantime you feel like you’re going to get bitten. Too bad VR hasn’t progressed far enough yet so that it’s more mainstream and the hardware less cumbersome. Part of the issue is that people simply don’t have enough space to play VR with the necessary leeway. Still, you can just fire up a ping pong match and play against a computer while striking the ball as if you were handling a real paddle, so that’s cool. The porn is also fantastic, of course, although I have the sort of female mind that gets turned on more by written erotica. I say that somewhat facetiously, but given that I grew up with barely any testosterone due to my pituitary tumor, the lack of testosterone during development likely made permanent changes to my brain.

Anyway, I suppose that the reason why I needed to write these words is that I found myself at the hospital cafeteria (I work at a hospital), holding a serrano ham sandwich in one hand, an ebook reader in the other, and I had to hold back tears, because getting through Cormac McCarthy’s The Passenger a second time has turned out to be an emotionally taxing task. That novel is about grief regardless of anything else that happens on the surface. It starts with the protagonist, Alicia Western’s bereaved brother Bobby, coming across a mystery through his work as a salvage diver, but that’s just an excuse for the main goal, that seems to be about exploring the fringes of human experience and knowledge. Grief is the bedrock of it all: there’s hardly a scene in which you don’t feel that Bobby is preventing himself from reminiscing about his dead sister, and whenever anyone brings her up, he’s usually moments away from leaving. And I feel Alicia’s presence buried under it all as if it speaks to something or someone else from my life, buried in a similar way.

Only in my late thirties I began to understand my complicated relationship with grief. I don’t process it well at all. Three of my cats died, and as part as my OCD, I get intrusive thoughts about them regularly. Those memories cause me cold aches in my chest, the sudden need to be left alone, every single time. I don’t even retain untainted memories of them. But there’s something deeper there, a missing presence that should have been there from the beginning but wasn’t. I recall feeling that way even as a child. The catalyst for me becoming even aware of the fact that I was grieving came when my subconscious suddenly compelled me to write the story Motocross Legend, Love of My Life, which became one of my favorite things that I’ve ever done. I’ve never had anyone like Izar Lizarraga in my life (if there had been and she had died, I wouldn’t be here, and if she had lived, I would have had better things to do than write these words). Sadly, I’ve never been in love in anything resembling a healthy way. I’ve had obsessions that tasted like love to me, but as in two people who love each other and want to be in a romantic relationship, never. Obviously I won’t in the future, as I don’t expect to ever be in a relationship again.

As it relates to McCarthy and his The Passenger, mainly the figure of Alicia Western, McCarthy achieved what I suppose is the usually unspoken goal of every writer: to haunt someone else with whatever has haunted you. But isn’t it a necessity of that very haunting, a “mind virus” that uses the host (a story) to pass itself into new hosts? Is it a good thing that when now I think of Alicia Western and her tragedy, my chest gets cold and tight, and my eyes watery? It feels more compelling than not feeling anything, for sure, but I don’t know if it’s precisely contributive to my survival as a human being. I haven’t forgotten the other stories that have haunted me, and I’m sure they’ll inhabit my depths for the rest of my life. If anything at all remains of me when I cross over into the dark, I’m sure they’ll be floating around in the mix. The question that comes to mind is, “So what?”

So what regarding anything we do, I suppose, about any legacy we may want to leave. Good luck leaving anything for the future in this civilization, where the “modern Westerners” are deliberately trampling over what came before. If they get their way, they’ll erase your legacy from the register. At the very least, they’ll appropriate and contaminate it. It doesn’t feel these days that there’s such a thing as “leaving a thing that matters.” It’s perhaps an odd thing for me to say, when McCarthy’s last book affected me this way, but I’m just a dude in Spain, completely irrelevant in the grand scheme of things.

The young woman pictured is McCarthy’s real Alicia Western, named Augusta Britt:

She was an abused foster girl, sixteen or possibly fourteen, that McCarthy fell in love with when he was forty-one or so, during a period of his life in which he wore atrocious pants. And what I meant to bring up with this is that I don’t doubt for a moment that if McCarthy had the option to return back in time and spend his life with her, he would have done it, even if it meant sacrificing every word he ever wrote. Perhaps I’m sure of that because I would have. The arts are a substitute to what you can’t live.

For the last few months, ever since I finished writing my story about a motocross legend, I haven’t been compelled to lose myself in the creation of a story again. I mean it literally: my subconscious isn’t about that shit at the moment. Getting through the aforementioned story took a lot out of me. I suspect it tore out some festering parts that were part of the fuel that made me anxious to tell other stories in the past. I don’t know when I’ll return to this game, hopefully to finish my ongoing novel first. At this point of my life, I’m just drifting through it all, trying to hold on to whatever sense of fulfillment, or at least comfort, floats by.

I guess that’s all I needed to say today.

The following is an excerpt from a letter that McCarthy wrote to his muse (the inspiration for Alicia Western as well as many others):

I have to confess that in a way, I was hoping that I wouldn’t hear from you anymore. I have to confess too that there are times when I feel enormous resentment toward you. Baby, there was nothing wrong with our love. You just threw it away. I never hear that song I don’t start crying. I never got over those blue eyes. I make lists of places in the world to go and things to do now that I have no responsibilities, but everything is just empty.