In a couple of days I’ll attend another therapy session, the second in about eleven years. That got me thinking about what my worst current issues are other than the fact that I remain unemployed and I can’t be arsed to seek a job.

My main personal problem is that I’ve lost most of my curiosity and interest. Back in the day, I used to come across subjects that interested me and seek out YouTube videos and books about them. I recall a long period in which I was obsessed with prehistory, the last ice age, the Younger Dryas, etc. But now, at forty-one and isolated, that I simply don’t give a shit enough about this world and the people in it to care about any of what’s going on or has gone on. It also feels like any exposure to it is going to wound me without giving me enough in return.

Even starting a movie or show feels like a hassle, the risk of investing emotion into an activity that may leave a worse residue than if I hadn’t bothered. It doesn’t help, of course, the fact that most everything I come across is just disappointing. Forget about most novels, movies, TV shows produced in the last twenty or so years; I offer my time and attention only for some shitheads to lecture me about something I disagree with.

I think that most people don’t have to worry as much as I have to about the residue that experiences may leave inside me. But I have Pure O OCD, and every day is a churning of every random shit that has ended up in me. And it seems I only retain bad stuff: painful, humiliating, shameful moments. Even bad stories can leave in me cringe-worthy memories that will show up at random to make my day a little worse.

I haven’t sought out anything new music-wise since 2016 or so. I think back on how much music used to mean to me. The Clientele, Modest Mouse, Radiohead, Spiritualized, The Walkmen, The Stone Roses, Built to Spill, Wilco, Joanna Newsom. Some of them already washed out by the time I discovered them. Some retired. I was obsessed with Joanna Newsom back in 2011-2013; I thought that her Ys and Have One on Me were some of the most grandiose artistic achievements of the modern era. Then her 2015 album Divers came out and I didn’t really vibe with it. She hasn’t released another album since, and now she’s a middle-aged woman with a family. I’m a slightly younger middle-aged man without a family and with constant physical aches.

The songs I loved captured complex emotions that can’t be properly translated into words. And they still do; earlier today, I took a long walk with my earbuds on, and recalled how meaningful songs by The Clientele, The Stone Roses, The Walkmen, and Wilco have been to me. But I guess I’ve reached that point in my life in which the stuff that truly mattered has become stuck in the past, and nothing the present has to offer fits me. I guess I don’t even want to try it. The old songs still reach me, but what I seem to have lost is the desire to go looking for anything else.

I feel done as a human being. If I had a job that didn’t try to kill me, like my old IT job did, and I could rely on a steady paycheck for years, I would just disappear from reality the rest of the time. But this uncertainty, not knowing where I’ll be in a year, contributes to me feeling that I can’t relax or lose myself in anything. And fully losing myself is exactly what I yearn to do: all my daydreams involve me being someone else, visiting the past. Sleeping is a respite that helps keep me sane, and most times I wake up, I’m overwhelmed with disappointment for having to endure more time in this world and as myself.

The seventies are the period I keep returning to. I keep returning to the same two years: 1972 and 1973. Cormac McCarthy’s Alicia Western killed herself in 1972. Sissy Spacek filmed Badlands in 1972. Old photos in my grandparents’ home, which I haven’t visited since I was 18 years old and never can again, were from that era, likely early seventies, and a girl in one of those photographs haunted me as a child and teenager; a depth, a presence in her expression that told me this was a person worth knowing. A section of the path behind a gym and bordering the Bidasoa river, which only became truly walkable in the last couple of years, has a conspicuous, inexplicable “1973” etched into it. An old time-traveling story of mine was set in that era as well. Somehow I’ve always been drawn to the seventies, as though I’d missed the years I was supposed to live through. I keep walking past the dates but I’ll never be able to enter the time they name.

Back to the Future came out the same year I was born. In it, Marty traveled to the fifties, thirty years before his era. That would be as if we went back from now to 1996. My obsession with the seventies would be like if Marty traveled to the 1930s in the movie. The seventies are long dead, despite how close they feel to me. If it weren’t for the reasonable quality of the recordings, photos, and movies, it might feel like exactly what it is: a world that has been gone, inaccessible, for a long time.

I wonder what I did to be cursed with all these yearnings for impossible things.